Life Is Not Purgatory
Tuesday, December 10, 2002
Honesty / Temperance / Fortitude
A friend of mine recently met someone over the Internet. I was happy for her: she had a bad string of relationships, including a near-loveless marriage. She recently met him in person and they got along as if they had known each other for a long time. However, he seems to have communication issues and was driving my friend up the wall until she finally stopped caring about it. The worry over whether he was truly interested or whether he was just leading her along the garden path had finally been too much for her. He just contacted her after a 10-day communications drought.. throwing her world a little upside-down so she needs to sort herself and her feelings out. I hope she does and I hope he smartens the F*CK up!
Two words of advise to men and women out there: YES or NO. Do not give any misleading lines out to people who approach you out of romantic interest. You may think you are doing them a favor by letting them down ‘easy’ but are only compounding an already hurtful problem by giving hope to a hopeless situation.
It didn’t help that I was pining over someone myself… a person who doesn’t return phone calls . In addition, I just came to the same conclusion it does not matter. If the person I am pining over wants to develop a romantic relationship that will be great, in the interim however I’m not holding my breath.
A friend of mine recently met someone over the Internet. I was happy for her: she had a bad string of relationships, including a near-loveless marriage. She recently met him in person and they got along as if they had known each other for a long time. However, he seems to have communication issues and was driving my friend up the wall until she finally stopped caring about it. The worry over whether he was truly interested or whether he was just leading her along the garden path had finally been too much for her. He just contacted her after a 10-day communications drought.. throwing her world a little upside-down so she needs to sort herself and her feelings out. I hope she does and I hope he smartens the F*CK up!
Two words of advise to men and women out there: YES or NO. Do not give any misleading lines out to people who approach you out of romantic interest. You may think you are doing them a favor by letting them down ‘easy’ but are only compounding an already hurtful problem by giving hope to a hopeless situation.
It didn’t help that I was pining over someone myself… a person who doesn’t return phone calls . In addition, I just came to the same conclusion it does not matter. If the person I am pining over wants to develop a romantic relationship that will be great, in the interim however I’m not holding my breath.
